Have you ever heard of broken window theory? In general, broken window theory stands on the premise that visible and physical signs of neglect, abuse, or lack of care invite further disregard and disrespect to those areas. The theory was initially applied to crime status in neglected parts of inner cities stating that parts of cites with visible signs of neglect and disrepair, such as broken windows, invites higher crime rates. While some studies since have indicated the theory does not hold 100% as initially applied, most of us can likely agree that when we see individuals carry and maintain high standards for themselves and environments they control, other people tend to acknowledge and respond to that high regard. On the opposite end, when we see spaces or individuals who project a lack of care, there is a higher likelihood others will adopt the lower level of standard projected.
There is a popular quote saying you teach others how to treat you. This idea fits well with the idea of broken window theory and I believe can be expanded. You teach others through your words, behaviors, habits, boundaries, and expectations your personal standards. You show the standards you hold for yourself and the spaces and duties you hold responsibility over. While you cannot control the thoughts or behaviors of others, you do have control over your own actions and actively demonstrate the standards you are willing to tolerate from others, How do you want others to see you, treat you, engage with you?
Oh, and by the way, you even teach yourself what you are willing to tolerate. The habits you adopt emphasize the mindset you take throughout your day. The levels of excellence or diligence you strive for or practice become your water line for what you consider acceptable. You influence what you believe about yourself and what you are capable of. What are your teaching yourself?
When you look at your life, do you see any "broken windows" that need to be fixed? Can you identify areas where you may have become complacent? Are there relationships tainted by disrespect or where boundaries need to be defined. How are you defining and holding to the standards you need for your personal or professional wellbeing?
Do you need help gaining clarity around what you want your standards to be or understanding what you are currently projecting to yourself and others? Maybe you know what is broken bat aren't sure where to start repairs. Reach out and connect with me and we can find out together.
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